Living Fearlessly 無畏地生活
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like a downstream consequence in someone's subconscious that leads them to think
在某人的下意識中，就會冒出向下游的後果，導致某人開始認為
then I'm going to be exiled from
接著我就要被群體放逐了。
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the tribe do you know what I mean that's like at the root of it that's why I
你明白我的意思嗎？就像是一連串後果的根源，這就是為何我
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think fear you know when we you talk so much about fear and becoming Fearless
認為恐懼是關鍵，當你談論到許多的關於恐懼，還有變得無所畏懼。
living fearlessly because I
無畏地生活，因為我
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don't think you can be Fearless okay living fearlessly what's the distinction fearlessly
不認為你可以無所畏懼。好，無畏地生活。區別是什麼？無畏地
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means I see things despite being afraid I'm going to try I'm going to do my best to like
意味著我看待一件事，儘管我感到害怕，但我還是去嘗試，我會盡全力去做，就像是
live in it right and embrace it
與恐懼共存，對吧？在某種程度上，擁抱恐懼。
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to some degree whatever you're afraid of if it's something you want to do follow
不管你是在害怕什麼，如果這是你想做的事，那就去追隨它，
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it and then figure out a way to to do it but it's okay to be afraid and uncertain during
並想個辦法去實現它，就算在這過程中感到害怕和不確定也沒關係。
the process I don't know when I'm
我不知道，當我
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uncertain too I'm thinking all right I can figure this out you don't fail until you stop I I
也不確定時，我想著：好吧！我可以弄清楚。只要你不停下來，你就不會失敗。我
look at it that way like
這樣看待它，就像是
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even if you're failing incrementally overall you won't fail until you're just
即使你逐步地失敗，但以整體來看，你不會失敗，直到你就
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like all right I'm done and as long as you're done cuz you want to be done that's cool
這樣：好吧，我受夠了！只要你的結束，是因為你想要結束，那就沒關係！
but you don't want to be
但你不應該這樣
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done because you keep failing or you're confused or you're you're you're leaving
結束，只因為你一直失敗，或是你感到困惑。或是你打算放棄，
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because somebody other people are telling you shouldn't be doing it it's just because
只因為有其他人跟你說，你現在不應該做這件事。（你應該要，）只是因為
you decided I don't want to
你決定——我再也不想
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be on this path anymore I think it's it always has to come back to you I like I've always
在這條道路上了。我想，這一切都應該回歸到你自己。我一直都
been in the school of
認同這個觀點，
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thought cuz and I love my family but they were always telling me do this and
因為，我愛我的家人，但他們總是對我說該做什麼。
especially cuz my parents were immigrant
尤其因為我父母是移民，
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everything was job security get a good job get a good job 9 to 5 get a good job don't
事事講求工作穩定性，找個好工作、找個朝九晚五的好工作、找個好工作，別
try to do
想做
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anything else you know because they struggled so much and so when I tried to do
其他的事。你知道的，因為他們經歷過太多掙扎，因此當我試圖去做
things outside of that element they
超出那個範疇的事時，他們
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were afraid they were confused they thought I was nuts even when I started the
感到擔心、感到困惑，他們覺得我是瘋子。甚至當我開始在
NYPD they were not they were not
紐約市警察局工作時，他們一點也不
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happy at all they're like what is this girls don't do these types of jobs even in my
高興，他們的反應像是：這是什麼？女生才不做這種工作。甚至在我的
community uh they you
社區裡，嗯，他們，你
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know I was laughed at you know people people kind of are like look at Yanni was my
知道的，我被嘲笑，你知道，人們有點像是，看看……雅尼是我
dad's name look at Yan's daughter
爸的名字，看看雅尼的女兒，
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look look how silly she's she is you know so this is kind of like those moments where
看看她有多傻。因此這有點像是那些時刻，
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you going back to you just have to do what you feel because afterward you're
你回歸到自己身上，只需跟隨自己的感受去行動，因為之後你
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going to be pissed off as hell because you listen to other people
會氣得要死，只因你聽從了他人的建議。
Making Decisions Will Increase Your Confidence 做決定能增加你的自信
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and on that point of gut instinct which you mentioned a second ago is there a way do
關於你剛才提到的本能直覺，
you think to train and develop
你認為有方法可以訓練和發展
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your gut instinct cuz you strike me as someone that has a pretty astute gut instinct
它嗎?因為你給我的感覺是，一個擁有敏銳直覺並且信任它的人。
that you trust but some people
但有些人
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don't and what ends up happening is they just end up living in regret that they didn't
不是這樣，結果就是，他們最終生活在悔恨之中，因為沒有聽從自己的本能直覺。
listen to their gut instinct and they you know like they only find out
而且，你知道，他們總在
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after the fact after they've been mistreated so I'm wondering if there's a way to like
事情發生後才意識到自己受到了不當對待。因此我在想，是否有方法能
cultivate a better
與自己的直覺和本能直覺，建立更深的聯繫？
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relationship with one's intuition and gut instinct yeah stop asking everybody
當然有，停止向他人詢問意見！
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what they think when I have a really big decision to make like really big I don't I don't
當我需要作出重大決定的時候，真的很重要的那種，事實上，我不會
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tally people in fact the bigger it is the bigger the consequences or the bigger the the
跟別人說。決定越重大，後果就越嚴重，
pain or the trauma or
痛苦或創傷也越深，
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whatever it is I go in because they're going to confuse me that's what you do you
不管是什麼。我獨自思考決定。因為他們會讓我感到困惑，所以你該做的是
stop asking
停止詢問
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people and if you're going to ask somebody let's say it's a health decision you're
他人，假如你真的要請教某人，比方說是健康方面的決定，你
going to go to a doctor
會去問一位醫生，
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or you're going to go to someone who has specific knowledge about a decision you
或是去問一位對你要做的決定，有專業知識的人。
are trying to make you're not going to
你不會去找
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go to Mom you're not going to go to Dad you're not going to go to your brother
媽媽、你不會去找爸爸、你不會去找哥哥、
you're not going to go to people who don't have that who although they love
你不會去找沒有相關知識的人們，儘管他們愛
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you their opinions are going to send you like a pingpong ball that's how you become
你，但他們的意見可能會使你像乒乓球一樣（快速地被來回推動），這就是為何你變得
unsteady and you can start small
搖擺不定。你可以從小地方開始、
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you can start small and when I say start small is start making decisions without
你可以從小事做起。當我說從小事做起，我的意思是開始自己做決定，而不去
running them by anybody what to eat
徵詢他人的意見。（比如說，）要吃什麼？
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where to go where to vacation just you can start small it's just allow yourself
要去哪裡？去哪裡度假？總之，你可以從小事做起。這不過是讓自己
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to be the decision maker allow yourself to be in the driver's seat but what we do is
成為決策者，讓自己坐上駕駛座。但我們的做法是，
we invite people in the car we're
我們邀請人們上車，我們
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like yeah yeah you could drive my car no problem they get in the driver's seat we put
像是，好啊！好啊！你可以開我的車，沒問題！然後他們就坐上駕駛座，我們
them in the driver's seat then we're
讓他們坐在駕駛座，於是我們
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in the passenger seat or we might even get kicked to the back seat and then we're all
坐在副駕，或甚至是被踢到後座。接著，我們全都
pissed off like why are you driving like that why are you going that
氣瘋了，像是，你為什麼要這樣開？你為什麼要走那條
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way that's not really where I want to go then drive the car and stop inviting
路？那根本不是我想去的地方！既然如此，你應該自己開！別再邀請
everybody in to drive it for you and
別人進來幫你開車，
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then be pissed off when they don't take it the direction you want to go if you're going
然後當他們不照你的意思走時，又感到憤怒。假如你真的要
to be pissed off always be pissed off at
生氣，那就對你自己生氣吧！
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yourself because it's like I chose I chose wrong but I chose that is how you
因為這就像：我做了選擇、我選錯了，但這是我自己選的，這正是你
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build confidence you know going back to law enforcement cuz I teach it one of
建立自信的方式。你知道，回到執法領域，因為我教授這個領域。執法
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the predominant trains that people in law enforcement have is um they are they
人員的其中一項主要訓練有……嗯，他們是……他們
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have high confidence because of one reason they are they make
擁有高度自信，原因只有一個——他們做
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decisions they are good decision makers because when you're out on the street and
決定，他們是優秀的決策者。因為當你在外面街上，
you're dealing with somebody or
你在處理某人或
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situation there's nobody to look over to and say hey how should I handle this you
某種情況時，沒有人可以讓你請教，問說：嗨！我該如何處理這個？你
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have to make a choice and you have to go making decisions is going to increase
必須做出選擇並付諸行動，做決定將提升
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your confidence and your ability in yourself even if they're the wrong decisions that's
你的自信心與對自身能力的信任。即使這些是錯誤的決定，那也
not the point be a
不是重點。成為
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decision maker in your life that is going to move you forward that is going to increase
自己人生中的決策者，這將推動你向前，也會加強
your belief in yourself and
你對自己的信念
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your trust in yourself and you're going to get comfortable too huh I read that wrong
和信任，讓你更加自在：哼，我讀錯了，
you know what I learned here I
你知道我在這裡學到了什麼嗎？我
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should have read it this way and so this is when you bring in the Vibes and a little bit
應該這樣理解它。這就是你把氛圍帶進來，運用一點點
of tactical strategy because
戰略性技巧的時機，因為
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you're less emotional that's another F that's another hindrance when you are
你變得比較不情緒化，那是另一個……那是另一個障礙物。當你
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emotional you are a bad decision maker when you are in a space of emotion
情緒化時，你是個壞的決策者。當你身處在情緒的空間裡，
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make no decision avoid don't text don't call don't I always say just remove
別做任何決定！避開！不要傳訊息、不要打電話、不要……我總是會說：把
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yourself and go in go quiet when you can go quiet and be in that Stillness of you
自己移開，進入你的內心、安靜下來。當你能夠安靜下來，並且待在你的平靜之中。
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it will come to you over time and you know what's another great thing and when you
它會隨著時間浮現，而且，你知道另一件很棒的事嗎？當你
look at resilient people they don't
觀察有韌性的人們，（你會發現）他們並沒
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have all the answers and they don't need to have all the answers I don't have all
有全部的答案，他們也不需要擁有全部的答案。我也沒有全部的
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the answers but I don't need them to be okay and this is where you Embrace that
答案，但我不需要它們，來讓自己安心。這正是你擁抱
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uncertainty you don't have to have all the answers and that by itself is powerful like
不確定性的地方，你不需要擁有全部的答案，而這本身就很有力量，好比說，
you don't need to figure
你不需要找出答案、
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it out you don't need to know what to do right away leave it sit in it be in it
你不需要馬上知道該怎麼做，讓它存在、沉浸其中、與它共存。
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then when it's time you move through you're going to end up getting a lot of
當時機到來，你會跨越過去。你最終還是會收到許多
unsolicited advice though you
不請自來的建議，你
