What Do People Come to Evy For? 人們找向伊芙是為了什麼？
3:32
get DMS from people and private messages what is it the essence of what they're
從人們那裏獲得私訊和私人消息，本質上，他們來找你是為了什麼？
coming to you
3:38
for so I was surprised with my book where people began writing in I'm dealing with this problem your book
我對我的書感到驚訝，人們開始來信說我正好面臨這個問題，你的書
3:45
helped me find a way out or I'm dealing with this can you
幫我找到了出口，或是我正在處理這件事，
3:51
give me guidance on how to deal with it what is the essence of what they're
你可以指導我該怎麼解決嗎？他們掙扎的核心本質是什麼？
struggling with it's always themselves
總是他們自己。
People Sabotage Themselves 人們破壞自我
4:00
it's not the it's not the world around you I get it to some extent but it's almost always
我某種程度上明白，問題不在於你周圍的世界，而是幾乎總是
where the
來自（我們自己）
4:07
problem we either sabotage ourselves we get in the way we make decisions or we think I didn't do anything everything's
我們要麼自我破壞、要麼自我妨礙、要麼做出決定，要麼以為自己什麼也沒做。
4:13
cause an effect anytime you say do act or don't act it has a consequence or an
每件事都會造成影響，任何時候你說什麼、做什麼、行動或不行動，這全都會招致後果或
4:19
effect to it and I think sometimes we're so blasé about it in the Western World the
影響，而且我認為有時候我們不把這當一回事。在西方世界，
science shows that we actually
科學指出，我們實際上
4:25
downplay our faults when we make a mistake it's not that big of it a deal we
會淡化自己的缺點。當我們犯了錯，也不是什麼多大的事，
downplay our stuff and we actually
我們會淡化自己的行為，我們實際上
4:33
lift up our positive attributes it's okay but to a point because when you
提升了我們的正向特質。這樣沒關係，但這有一定的限度。因為當你
4:38
downplay things and you downplay your involvement you downplay your choices you
輕忽事情、輕忽你的參與、輕忽你的選擇、
downplay what role you play in your
輕忽自己在生活中所扮演的腳色，
4:46
life then you can't you you really are essentially poweress and you're you're blaming
那麼你就無法（掌控自己）。你真的是實質上無能為力的，你甚至會怪罪
the world and I'm not saying
這個世界。我不是說
4:53
that other people can't harm you they will they just will I think if people made peace
其他人不可能會傷害你，他們會，他們就是會。我認為人們已經接受這個事實：
with the fact that they're
他們是
4:59
actors out there some I know some I don't know and in pursuit of their self-interest
不好的行為者，有些我認識、有些我不認識，而且在追求自身利益的時候，
people are going to make
他們會
5:05
choices that hurt me period bar on the end if you can live with that and
做出傷害我的決定，（人就是這樣，）沒什麼好說的。如果你能夠接受這一點，並且
5:11
understand that you will be okay because you just have more awareness in fact in
明白這一點，你會很好，因為你有更多的覺悟。事實上，
5:16
the when I did polygraphs the interview room after I interviewed so many people
當我在測謊、在面談室。在我面談了這麼多人之後，
and typically I would interview suspects
而且通常是面談嫌疑犯，
5:24
um people that we suspected committing a crime so lie detector tests lie detector
嗯，就是我們懷疑有犯下罪行的人們，因此……測謊儀測試？測謊儀測試，
test but I was a lie detector not the
但測謊儀是我，
