How Does Steven Pick People? 史蒂芬如何選人？
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there's so many things of interest there I remember if we go back to the top of your
那裡有好多有趣的事，我記得，假如我們回到你最核心的論點，
point around your environment and
在你周遭的環境和
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people having a huge impact on your life I remember reading a study by a guy called
人們對你的人生有重大的影響，我記得我讀過一項名叫麥克．豪斯曼的人做的研究
Michael hman and another study
，還有另一項由
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done done at Harvard University where they showed that even if at work you sit next
哈佛大學做的研究，他們的研究發現，即使是在工作時，你坐在
to someone who is toxic and does
有毒且
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like bad practice I at work your chance of doing bad practice yourself radically
工作習慣差的某人旁邊，你自己做出不良習慣的可能性會大幅地
increases and in some cases that's by
增加，在某些情境下，機率為
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25% and in other environments that's up to 100% your your probability of then
２５％，而在其他環境中，甚至高達百分百。接著，你得到懲戒的可能性大幅增加，
getting a disciplinary against you just
僅是因你坐在那人身邊。
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because you sat next to that person radically increases and this is I think reinforce is
我認為這強化了
the case that your environment is has such a powerful and
這個論點——你的環境對你有如此強大且
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profound impact on You For Better or For Worse and I think the for better part is also
深遠的影響，不論是好是壞。我想對於好的部分
worth pausing on because if you're
也值得停下來思考，因為如果你
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sitting with and you're around people that are lifting you and elevating you and
身邊坐的人，和圍繞著你的人們，他們能夠鼓舞你、提升你
making you believe that the world is
並且讓你相信這世界是
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valuable and you can do anything as I've experienced in my own life at times it's crazy
有價值的、讓你相信自己可以做任何事，就像我自己人生中的某些時刻所經歷的那樣，這真的很驚人，
that that almost like rewies the
某種程度上，幾乎像是在你的大腦裡重新連結
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neurons in your brain to some degree how do you pick people like how do you
神經元。你如何挑選身邊的人？像是，你如何
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differentiate on your own who's good and who's not for you you know what this is
靠你自己去區別，對你而言誰是好的，誰不是？你知道嗎？這真是
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a really interesting question Vibes and everything else in my life I'll tell you data
個有趣的問題。氛圍。在我的生活中，除此之外，我會告訴你是數據
science or this
科學或這個，
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or here's my framework but there's some things in life which I think your intuition
或這是我的框架。但生活中有些事，我認為是，你的直覺
and your Vibes if you've
和氛圍，如果你已
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developed the skill of tuning in enough is the best indicator and if you if you look
培養出足夠敏銳的覺察技巧，這是最好的指標。假如你回顧
back through my career at 18
我的生涯，１８歲那年
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dropping out of University even at 60 not going to school 20 leaving a business that
從大學輟學，甚至１６歲時不去上學，２０歲離開了發展很好的公司，
was going really well and
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then at 27 quitting a business that was all over the world and about to do this major
然後在２７歲，退出已經遍布全球、正準備進行重大
second IPO all this stuff in all
第二次IPO的公司（是指在另一國家首次公開募股），所有的這些東西，
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of those moments the most important thing wasn't my prefrontal cortex it wasn't
在那些所有的時刻，最重要的並不是我的前額葉皮質，也非關
logic or facts or figures or the money it was purely this feeling inside
邏輯、事實、數字，或金錢，而是純粹我內心的感受，
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me that I no longer wanted to do this thing because it didn't feel good anymore and
我不想再做這件事，因為它感覺不再好。
in the moment you look
在當下，你看起來
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insane but when you zoom out on a person's life who is driven by that voice inside
瘋了，但當你拉遠視角去看一個人，被內在聲音所驅動的人生，
like really driven by it
像是真的被內心所驅動，
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you go oh my God what a life that they have amazing look at look at the girlfriend
你會這樣：我的天，他們擁有怎樣的人生！棒呆了！看看他們的女友、
they have and the place they live and the stuff they have and the job
他們居住的地方、他們擁有的事物和他們的工作，
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they have they're so lucky but I actually think it starts with that like courage to tune
他們是如此幸運，但我真的認為，這一切的起點是，有勇氣去深入感知
into that voice inside
內在的聲音。
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so that's my answer it's just pure Vibes people for me are vi just don't feel good don't
因此，這就是我的答案，是純粹的氛圍。對我來說，人們就是……感覺不對，
want to go and then careers
就離開。至於
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I've had as the year where I go I don't like doing this anymore that's that's me done
這幾年來我所做過的職業，當我再也不喜歡做這件事，我的作風就是結束它。
and there's another part which is on the
還有另一部分
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other end of that is uncertainty because in all those situations there was really
在另一端，是不確定性，因為在所有這些情況下，真的沒有替代方案，
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no plan B there was no good plan B that's so interesting so when you talk about
沒有好的替代方案。那真的很有趣！所以當你談到
Vibes it's your intuition yeah
氛圍，其實是你的直覺。對！
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it's your instinct I'm Bar None and it's when when I'm around people like anybody
那是你的本能，我是無可比擬的。當我和人們在一起時，不管是任何人，
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around they give off something and what we don't do is we don't listen to what
他們都會散發出某種感覺。而我們不做的是，我們不去聽
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we feel you can still do business or talk to someone but when you feel that and I do
自己的感受。你仍然可以工作，或是和某人說話，但當你感覺到……而我也
too I feel my way even honestly
是，我用自己的方式去感覺。甚至坦白說，
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even whose podcast I'm going to do I'm like I don't know if I like this Vibe or I don't
我連要去上誰的播客節目，我都會想：我不知道自己是否喜歡這種氛圍，或者我不
know if I like this I
知道自己是否喜歡這個。我
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just feel it I feel like who do I want to be around and even something like whose
只是感受到它，我感受到自己想和誰在一起，甚至像是
podcast do I want to be
我想上誰的播客節目，
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on because it's I'm bringing myself into a space right mhm that person's space
因為這代表我將自己帶進某個空間，對吧？嗯嗯！那人的空間，
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it's like it's all it's all interconnected so it's like I'm choosing what's spaces to go into
它像是，它是全部相互連接的，因此它像是，我正選擇要進入怎樣的空間，
and if you're
假如你是
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right if it you don't have to articulate it to yourself and that's where we go wrong
對的，你不需要向自己解釋感受，那就是我們經常犯的錯，
often because it's like somebody
因為就像是有人
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comes in they say hi to you and immediately you're like I just I don't like this but they
進來，他們對你說嗨，你立刻感覺到：我就是不喜歡這樣，但他們
didn't say anything
沒有對你說什麼，
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to you they didn't do anything to you you can't articulate why and you know what we
他們也沒有對你做什麼，你無法清楚地表達為什麼，而我們這樣做，
do we dismiss it we dismiss it
我們忽略它、我們消除它！
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oh it's me oh I shouldn't this no it's you know what it's you're you've got two
噢！是我！噢！我不該這樣。不，這是，你知道嗎？你有兩個
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brains right this one and the gut that's what they call it the your gut instincts
大腦，對吧？一個是頭腦，另一個是腸道，這就是他們怎麼稱呼它的，你的本能直覺。
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listen to it always and I think going back to people who are steady you're talking
永遠聽從直覺！我想，回到那些穩定的人們，你談論到
about what makes you steady I
什麼讓你穩定，我
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think a big part of what helps make you steady is trusting in yourself you have to
想有個很大的部分，幫助你穩定的是，信任你自己。你必須
trust in yourself like believe in
信任你自己，也就是說，相信
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yourself and when I say that I mean trust that what you're feeling is is is true like
你自己，當我這麼說，我的意思是，要信任你感受到的東西是真實的，你應該
listen to it
傾聽它，
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and not let other people talk you out of things or being able to say I feel this way I
別讓其他人說服你放棄，或者是，能夠說出：我有這樣的感覺，我
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don't know why but I'm going to trust it and almost if not all the time you look
不知道為什麼，但我會去信任它。就算不是每次，但幾乎，只要你回過頭來看，
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back it's like I knew better I felt this I kind of sensed this I didn't listen to
就會像這樣：我早知道、我有感覺到、我有隱約感覺到，但我沒有聽從
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myself and if you're wrong so you're wrong and that goes back to uncertainty
自己的感受。如果你錯了，那就錯了，一切會回到不確定性。
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people are afraid to be wrong why because of what other people
人們害怕自己是錯的，為什麼？因為擔心其他人
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might say about me because how I will look to the world and
會怎麼說我，因為擔心在世人眼裡我會看起來怎樣，
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you know from there from that conclusion you then jump to and then they will reject
你知道的，從那邊、那個結論，接著你跳到，接著他們會排斥
me and then I'll be alone and
我，然後我會獨自一人，
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then I'll be lonely then I'll die that's kind of like The Logical the downward step I
然後我會寂寞，然後我會死去。這有點類似，邏輯上的，下行階段。我
always find that interesting I
一直覺得這很有趣，
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had this conversation with my girlfriend yesterday which is it's interesting how one
我昨天和女友談過這個話題：很有趣的是，某個
belief is actually connected to like
看法是如何實際連結到，
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a string of Downstream beliefs that then go to he doesn't love me and this is such a
一連串向下游的看法，然後延伸到結論他不愛我。這是一個如此
random tangent but me and my
隨機的插曲，但我和我
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girlfriend were like scheduling our calendar for the future that we're going to be a
女友正在安排我們未來的行程，因為我們將有一段時間會分開，
part for a little while so um she wanted to like schedule the dates
因此，嗯，她想要安排見面的日子，
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and I was really busy with something and so I wasn't like paying as much attention to
但我當時真的在忙一些事，所以我沒有那麼專心在
the scheduling conversation
討論行程，
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and she got a little bit upset and I found it so interesting cuz the fact that I was half
她因此有點生氣，但我發現這很有趣，因為我沒有集中
paying attention to the
注意力在
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scheduling conversation actually told her that I'm not interested in her which
行程討論上的事實，實際傳遞給她訊息——我對她沒興趣，這
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means I don't love her and and so afterwards I turned her and I said can you explain
就意味我不愛她，於是後來我轉向她，我說：你可以跟我解釋一下，
to me like how I made you feel in that situation and I went why
，在那種情況下我讓你感覺如何嗎？然後我就在想：為什麼？
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why every time why why and we got right down there you don't love me and it all
為什麼每次都這樣？為什麼？我們最後的結論，總是，你不愛我。而且全都是
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started with this little thing at the top and I think the same here where if I do
從這最初的小事開始，我認為這情況很類似，假使我做
something and it goes wrong there's
了某件事，結果出了問題，
