How Do We Start to Become Mentally Strong?
我們如何開始建立強大的心理素質？
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about how victims stay victims and this whole idea of becoming a bulletproof
受害者為何走不出來，還有這整個成為心理強大之人的概念，
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person because regardless of what we do in our lives bad things going to happen
不論我們在生活中做了什麼，壞事還是會發生，
we're going to encounter narcissists and
我們會遇到自戀者和
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people that are looking to take advantage of us there's a certain mental fortitude
想要利用我們的人們。你散發出某種心理堅韌，
that you exude you you exude a
你散發出一種
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certain type of mental resilience and strength what is the found you know and
特定的心理韌性和力量。基礎是什麼……你知道，
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I think that's really critical because if you have that strong internal
我想這真的很關鍵，因為如果你有強大的內在
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Foundation then all everything else we're probably going to talk about today
基礎，那麼我們今天可能會談論到的所有其他事情
becomes much easier and possible but
都會變得更加容易、更多可能性，但
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without that like strong Foundation when the wind blows the house Falls over so if
沒有強大的基礎，當風一吹來，房子便會倒下。因此假如
we think about step one in building
我們想要開始去建立像你一樣
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that strong mental fortitude Foundation that you have where does one begin and
強大的心理韌性地基，第一步要從哪裡開始，
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especially if we're beginning from a very very bad place we're beginning from a place
特別是，假如我們起步在一個非常糟糕的地方，我們從一個
of victimhood bad things have
受害者心態開始，壞事已經
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happened we're not the most confident person it starts with who's around you
發生在我們身上，我們並不是最有自信的人。要從在你周圍的人是誰開始。
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that's where it starts if you have people around you anybody can break
這就是它開始的地方。如果你有人在你身邊，任何人都可以打破
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victimhood like anybody can you can so I want to put that out there just because
受害者心理，任何人都可以、你可以。所以，我想傳達出去，只是因為
you're locked in the place doesn't mean
你被困在這個地方，並不代表
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you have to stay in there you can but usually you're if you're locked in
你就必須停留在那裡。你可以，但通常你……假如你被困在
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somewhere it's because the system you have around you that you also help
某處，那是因為圍繞在你周圍的秩序，某種程度上你也協助了
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create and perpetuate to some degree we're not completely innocent we play a role
創造和延續，我們並非全然地無辜，我們都在其中扮演了一角。
the system that is built around you
秩序在你周圍建構，
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keeps you think of it this way it keeps you in jail so you have to look at your
把你困住，這麼想好了——它將你困在監獄裡。因此你必須檢視你的
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environment and say what about my environment is keeping me here usually
環境，並指出，在我的環境中，是什麼讓我無法擺脫困境。通常，
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it's a person or people hopefully it's one and you're not dealing with multiple
它是某個人，或是一群人。希望只有一個人，而不是多個人要面對。
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now it can be family and that's where you know some when you deal with
現在，它可能是家庭，那正是……你知道有些、當你和
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children and you deal with certain you know crimes and abuse I I I you know I always
小朋友打交道，你在處理特定的，你知道的、犯罪和虐待。我、我、我，你知道、我一直
feel like
覺得
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the one population of people that truly have an like I don't want to say excuse but
人們之中有一群體，真的有一個……像是，我不想找藉口，但
you it's really not their fault are
你，這真的不是他們的錯，
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kids because there's just so vulnerable and like they rely on you for their their
就是孩子，因為他們是如此的脆弱，他們依賴你來維持他們的
livelihood they need somebody to
生活，他們需要有人去
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feed them clothe them take care of them or they can't survive however if as you
餵養他們、為他們穿衣、照顧他們，否則他們無法生存。然而、假使，你隨著
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age right as you mature it's looking at your environment who's around me and who is
年齡增長、隨著成熟，你就該檢視自己的環境、看是誰在自己身邊，還有是誰
keeping me here who it and you know
把自己困住，在這裡！是誰？它……你知道
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what becomes hard it becomes hard because you'll have a let's say uh I
什麼變得困難嗎？它變得困難是因為你會有一個……這麼說好了，嗯，我
